A Customized Urn for a baby who never Lived

29 Apr A Customized Urn for a baby who never Lived

Designing an urn for a baby who never lived was a challenge. My heart went out to the young woman who contacted me  on my site, www.personalized-urns. com, shortly after her first child was stillborn. “I’m so glad I found you,” she said. “This is exactly what I was looking for. “Lucy had Turner syndrome,” she said, explaining the condition. “You always use photos in your cremation urns and I don’t have any. All I have are her tiny footprints. I guess a two inch urn is all I need,” she lamented.  “What would make this an artistic urn?”

“Write what you feel for her,” I suggested,” and that’s what we’ll use. “A six inch urn will be large enough so you can insert notes in the future if you choose to.” She clearly responded to that idea. Later I read that grief counselors suggest to parents who’ve lost a baby: “Write about your feelings in a journal. You may want to write a letter to your baby.” The next tip was “Make something for your baby such as an album, or plant a tree in the baby’s memory, or anything that makes you feel you have done something.”

Hearing that the logo for Turner syndrome is a purple butterfly, I suggested she write on white paper with a purple felt tip pen. I was excited to find tiny, purple glass butterflies that I included in the pique assiette shards of plates that were the colors she’d requested – lavender, cream and pale green.

Mother’s Day was two weeks off. Facing that after losing a baby, I made sure she would receive the infant urn by then.

We never met, but we did become Facebook friends, and I was thrilled when she posted that she’d had a baby. An urn for a baby that never lived is special. An urn for any baby is special. The truth is every urn I design is. Each client remains in my heart.